When someone is grieving, the holidays can feel incredibly isolating and lonely, especially when it seems like everyone else is out celebrating with friends and family.
While it may be hard to find the right words to say to someone who is going through the challenges of grief, there are ways to offer comfort and support while still keeping the holiday season in mind.
Sending a thoughtful message can show your loved one that you are thinking of them and aware of their grief.
It's important to acknowledge the occasion with words that are appropriate and comforting. If the loss is recent, offering "happy holidays" or any other celebratory message may seem insensitive or dismissive of their grief.
Phrases to comfort someone grieving during the holidays:
"I'm here for you."
Sometimes, the simplest words can offer the most comfort. Reminding your loved ones that you are there for them can make a world of difference.
"If you don't feel like celebrating, that's okay. Your grief is valid.”
Being supportive of someone's holiday feelings can be incredibly reassuring. Let them know that their emotions are valid and that they don't need to hide their grief.
“I understand that you are grieving and that things are tough right now, but I wanted to let you know that I'm here for you and wish you a brighter year ahead.”
Simply acknowledging someone's loss can help them feel understood and reassured and wishing them hope for the future can be incredibly comforting, giving them something positive to look forward to.
I'll be sure to light a candle for you and {departed’s name} as we welcome the New Year."
Lighting a candle is a beautiful gesture that lets your loved ones know that they are in your thoughts and a way to pay your respects to the departed.
Finding comfort in poetry
Sometimes it's hard to find the right words to say to someone who is grieving and for some people, expressing their feelings verbally may not be the best approach.
Luckily, there are other ways to show someone you care during the holidays. Consider sending a heartfelt poem to show that you are thinking of them during this holiday season.
Heartfelt poems to send to someone grieving during the holidays:
Christmas Memories by Sandy Siewers.
I will Light Candles this Christmas by Howard Thurman
Holidays in Heaven by Dan Bryl
Christmas Without You by Kaye Des'Ormeaux
Other ways to support someone grieving during the holidays
You can also offer practical support such as helping with holiday preparations, cooking meals, or running errands.
If they don't feel up to participating in holiday events, offer to spend time with them doing something simple and comforting, like watching a movie or taking a walk.
It is important to show your loved one they are not alone, and that you are there to support them as they try to heal.
Lastly, don't forget to take care of yourself too. Supporting someone who is grieving can be challenging, so be sure to prioritise your mental health and self-care during this time as well.